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But sometimes it doesn’t feel hot to think about safer sex when you’re in the middle of throwing your inhibitions to the wind. So here’s a few ways to think about it that can help. What Safer Sex is All About First lets talk about what safer sex is all about. It ‘s about taking care of you and your partner. People share disease all the time. We get colds from the folks in the office, flu from your sister’s kid, it just makes sense that we can share disease with our lovers. But of course, like the office cold and the kid’s flu, you’d probably like to avoid that. There are simple precautions that we can take to reduce the risk of that happening. The first precaution is - get tested. Most sexually transmitted infections are curable. If you have had a partner change in the last year, you should get tested for sexually transmitted infections, including HIV at your annual check up. If you don’t have health insurance, there are many places where you can go and get tested for free – just call your local health department, or check out this site: HIV testing sites - search by zip code! Some sexually transmitted infections can’t be cured. These include HPV (warts), Herpes and HIV. A lot of people who live with these diseases don’t even know that they have them. So, it’s back to the testing thing. If you or your partner are living with one of these, it’s not the end of the world. There are plenty of ways reduce your risk of sharing the infection. Once you know what you’re dealing with in your body, it’s time to find out what your partner (or partners) are dealing with. If your partner is someone new, it’s best to assume that they could be infected with a sexually transmitted disease. If you are in a mutually monogamous relationship, and you both have been tested, you can make your decisions based on those tests. So, lets say you are in a situation where it makes sense to use precautions. We all know about condoms. But, lets step back for a bit. The stuff (bacteria or virus) that spreads sexually transmitted infections is found on the skin around the genitals and/or in genital fluids (like vaginal secretions or ejaculate) and/or in blood. So, the point of safer sex is to enjoy sex with another person or persons without exposing each other to these things. Harness play Using latex barriers like condoms, dental dams and gloves (if you are allergic to latex condoms, dental dams and gloves all come in non-latex options). If you use condoms for sex toys or penises, learn how to put the condom on with your mouth. Choose condoms that don’t have spermicide. Spermicide tastes terrible, and it can cause micro abrasions in your vagina or your ass. It also can mess up your nail polish. Use lube on the outside of the condom. If you are going back and forth between the ass and the cunt, put on two condoms at first and peel one off when you go from one to the other. If you use a dental dam for oral sex on a female bodied person or for rimming an ass: Put lube on the area that you will be licking, stretch the dental dam so that it’s tight and then lick thru the dental dam. Try it on a hand first – you’ll be surprised how much sensation you will have. If you use a condom for oral sex on a penis or dildo, use a flavored condom. Most flavored condoms have the flavor concentrated at the top, so start licking there and lick the flavor down. Don’t think of safer sex as a downer, think of it as a challenge. Learn to eroticize the precautions. When you hear the rustle of the condom package, or the snap of gloves, it means that something good is coming. And that’s hot. For more info about sexually transmitted infections and safer sex, check out the following web sites: Planned Parenthood
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