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| How to introduce toys into a relationship. | ||
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Aw, the BIG question. Think about what would happen if you just sat down and talked about it. What do you think will happen? How do you think that your partner will feel? Nine times out of ten, this conversation isn’t a big deal. But, if you think it may be a sensitive subject for your partner, it’s worth thinking about how you should frame it. You want your partner to know that you are coming from good place with this, not a critical place. Concerns If you’re worried that it will make your partner feel inadequate or criticized. When you bring it up, reassure your partner that you are happy with your sex life together. And that you want to add to it by trying something new. You’re worried that your partner will think you don’t need them anymore. A sex toy is never a substitute for a real person. Adding toys to your relationship is meant to enhance it, not cut someone out. A vibrator or other toy adds something to your sex life that can’t be provided without it. Sex toys are tools. Include your partner by bringing them shopping with you. There is something wrong or missing in your sexual relationship and you are hoping that toys may help. Be honest. And gentle. This is a tough conversation to have. But it’s important. Passion and a fulfilling sex life are key to a long term relationship. Taking care of your sex life is part of your responsibility as a couple. Be clear with each other about what isn’t working. And be clear about how you feel that a toy (or toys) will help. Sit down together and talk about what things each of you would like to ad to your sex life. Maybe your partner has been wanting to try using toys too! Buy you and your partner a gift certificate for a class at Sugar. And see what happens! If you have a specific question that wasn’t answered here, send an email to asksugar@sugartheshop.com and we’ll try to answer your question on the web site.
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