Pegging!

All the details on how to peg!

What the hell is pegging?

Pegging is a term used to refer to a woman using a harness and dildo to penetrate her male partner anally.

Basically, it’s anal sex with a dildo. The name of the practice is associated with gender, but people of all genders enjoy receiving anal penetration. The anus has more nerve endings than anywhere on the human body other than the clitoris. For folks who have penises, anal stimulation can also stimulate their prostate. The prostate is basically the g-spot for bodies with penises – with all of the potential for pleasure!

Since, at Sugar, we believe that folks of all genders can have a variety of genital set ups, we’ll be focusing on a person of any gender wearing a harness and penetrating a person with a penis, no matter what their gender is.

So, you and your partner have talked and you’re ready to explore. Where do you start?

First, think about what harness will feel good to you. We have a few options. Our favorite for people with a clitoris is the Spare Parts Joque. It’s super adjustable, it stays in place like no other harness, it gives the wearer great control, can accommodate a wide variety of dildo shapes and sizes, fits folks from a 24” waist to a 64” waist AND it’s machine washable. For people with penises, Spare Parts makes a kick ass harness called The Deuce. It has all of the advantages of the Joque, but it has extra space built in to accommodate a penis and scrotum. Another great option is the New Cummer’s Kit from Sport Sheets. The kit includes both a simple harness and a small dildo!

If you’ve never used a harness before, it’s going to take a little practice. Give yourself some time. There will be moments that don’t go super smoothly. It’s common to be thrusting and not realize that the dildo has come out of the anus. The more practice you have, the less this will happen. You’ll get a better idea of where the dildo ends. Over time, you’ll build muscle memory and your body will remember. In the meantime, Receiver, please (gently) let the person wearing the harness know that they’ve slipped out, give yourselves little bit to readjust, giggle and keep it moving. The person doing the penetrating may find muscles you didn’t know you had. The way we use our bodies when we’re penetrating someone is different than anything else. If you get tired, switch into a different position. You don’t have to do all the work!

What dildo do you and your partner want? Has the person who’s going to receive the penetration received penetration before? If not, slow down and start with a small butt plug. Anal sex is about relaxing (check out our anal sex basics). Pick out a dildo that’s the same size as the butt plug, or a little bit bigger. If you are used to receiving penetration from fingers, use those fingers to figure out the width that will feel comfy. Start with a silicone dildo. Silicone will have some give. It’s worth getting a dildo that’s a little bit longer than you think that you need. It opens up more positions, and gives you a better reach to get past nice squishy bellies or well padded asses.

Lube. You need lube. Lots of lube. Preferably a water based lube that has some thickness. Sliquid Sassy or Sutil are good options.

Lastly, go over our anal sex basics, relax and enjoy!

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